我只想要一个家

曾经的我多么想结婚成家就是因为我真心想要拥有一个家，一个如果我有什么不开心有委屈时可以回去的家。

13年，这是我离开了自己的家去发展事业的年头。这些年许多跌跌撞撞，渐渐地我变得独立了。曾经看过人家说的寂寞10级别，其实我除了手术之外，全部做齐了。可想而知，成就我的寂寞里程碑的是因为我有很多年都无法依赖别人。

我确实缺爱所以我特别努力去爱。我不能说自己爱地轰轰烈烈但是至少依然充满憧憬。我憧憬有个爱我的人，憧憬有个给我空间的家，憧憬有人为我的成就欢呼，更加憧憬有人在我最无助的时候不离不弃。

 几个月前，男朋友跟我求婚了；正当我以为所有的憧憬都会开始实现的时候，我却对这段关系感觉越来越迷茫。

男朋友对我很好，但是是他觉得的好。

每一次我不开心就想冷静的时候，他非得逼我放下让我冷静的任何事或是物，立刻告诉他我怎么了。我其实就是需要时间消化我的情绪，可是无论我说多少次没有事，他都不相信我而要我立刻跟他说明清楚。有时候我想要立马走开，他却选择握紧我的手腕，就是要我马上与他对视并且立刻表明我有什么不开心。我要是不说，他就会闹脾气。

无法消化情绪之余，我还得安慰他。我真的压力好大。

他父母的家就在和我们一样的城市，每次有什么不开心，他可以回家放松。而我的家，在哪里？

我选择了离开自己的家13年，也习惯了对家里报喜不报忧的人生，那么努力地活好自己，那我不开心的时候要怎么做？

我只想要一个家，可以吗？

R.I.P Six Sigma

Working in corporate is interesting when you encounter people of different background reaching to an action point that is unreasonable to many.

I have recently been working closely with IT development team and our main objective was to have a program to replace redundant, manual work. 

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First, a team of analyst will make it a hard time for a requestor by making the requestor write a 25 page long of requirement for the developer to work on. Then after 20 times of changes, the document is good to go.

During development, the developer discuss with himself for the whole time, on how to do the developing, how the flow will go, how Operations can benefit from it and how it would be.

Then it is testing time. Program finally ready for testing but it didn't work as the initial requirement because developer assumed it in his version of 25 pager while the requestor have another understanding.

Analyst's final conclusion is proceed to get the system to production then only request for change because it is what the Developer understood from the program. 

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What I learn is that, if you pre-ordered a car 1 year ago, it is not the manufacturer's fault that they gave you an engine that is meant to work 1 year ago. 

I thought it would be fair if change to requirement is allowed at testing stage in order to achieve the objective but people of different background came to a conclusion that we should not fix it now, let it be rotten and shown then only get it fixed.

R.I.P Six Sigma

到底什么才是爱？

认识了他快9年，在一起都7年多了，我们依然还在磨合中。

7年多了，他是对我沉默的人，却是对朋友都会滔滔不绝。而我仿佛上辈子是个哑巴，这辈子生下来就是要说话的人。太累了，我就得说到没力气了才能睡着的那种多话之人。

7年多了，我依然还得猜他要的，而我最厌倦的就是猜测。

7年多了，我依然还是不知道他什么时候想吃什么，而我喜爱吃的他都不喜欢，我只能等朋友有空的时候陪我去吃，而我最爱的就是美食。朋友都说，我是可以用美食绑架的人。

7年多了，那种只有在极度没有安全感才出现的一丝丝不安，会不经意的在他身上突然散发出。无论我多么努力想要去除让他不开心的氛围，我都无法避免。而我大多数的朋友都是该死的异性，所以我已经处于跟大多数朋友存在着绝交状态。

7年多了，到底是时间没好好工作还是技巧没好好掌握，他如今依然是选择性聆听。而我就只剩下他一个聆听伙伴，我已经没有可以交心且不会偷偷地批评我的朋友了。

12月20日2020年，他跟我求婚了。期待已久的求婚，发生地不如期待但终究发生了。他一如既往地好笑，如我期望的计划错漏百出；当然最经典的必定是求婚前两天，他还找我＂练习＂了两次。😂

只是，就在求婚后的17天，我们吵架了。吵的是史无前列的轰烈却结局为冷战的一场闹剧。

我们正在谈论着八宝冰，一个充满我人生最快乐时段的回忆。当我说到我回忆里最精彩的记忆时，他的电话响起 - 是昨晚给我们吃免费八宝冰的朋友打来的。

他们挂了电话之后，我问他还记得我们刚才才说什么吗？他说，＂记得啊，就是在说现在要吃什么。＂

我们小争吵了一回，他忽然又说，＂是不是不想跟我一起了？我可以走。＂

7年了，他依然习惯性的不开心就想要逃避，而我已经不胜其数地反映了我对于逃避的厌恶，尤其当他不愉快就要走的时候；而他依然一如既往地重复着说。

到了餐馆，我纳闷地想要吃东西，结果递上去的点菜单就点了只有我才吃的卤面。虽然饿了，他选择不吃。他说饿了但是不想吃，而我只能难受的吃了一顿他板着脸的面。

吃完了，我不愿意上车回去，我感觉我需要空间，我需要让我冷静思考和呼吸的空间。

而他一如既往的觉得，我要发脾气就要回家发脾气。

而他一如既往的觉得，我要傲娇就不要在大街上。

而他一如既往的觉得，他都已经道歉了，我为什么还要生气。

其实我想要的就是他让我有冷静的空间和一颗聆听我想说话的心，一个卑微到我都无法自容的要求，真的那么难成全吗？

爱是不是就是我能忍多久就是爱多深，还是这就是求婚后应该拥有的另类磨合？

2020 - One Hell of a Year

2020 has been one hell of a year.

9th May 2020, I encountered sleeping difficulty while I was extremely tired. While I finally fall asleep, some unease feeling woke me up at 4.55 AM. It just didn't feel right.

I could barely open my eyes but it just feel like the wrong time to sleep. 

6:07 AM, a text rang, "I may be hospitalised". Instantly, I knew this is what kept my body awake.

With the pandemic on the rise, I thought it was Coronavirus. It turns out that my sister had a sudden pain at 3:00 AM, was rushed to the hospital by her friend. She ready herself with everything packed for hospitalization.

With extreme pain, she waited at the medical field for screening of coronavirus, blood test, x-ray, etc, from 4:30 AM to 4:30 PM, alone. My eldest sister, a community coordinator that focuses on neighbourhood well-being and how we can grow to help the community. In order to best deliver her job, she regularly travel and serve different communities across South East Asia. This happen while she away in a city, 9 hours drive from my city and 11 hours drive from home.

Medical Field she waited for 12 hours

Today, she fell sick in her city, alone. The pain was suspected to be appendicitis, she have to wait for 2 more patients before her with the same condition before she can go into a minor surgery to remove the inflamed appendix. After waiting for 12 hours, they told her, she will need to wait till 8:00 PM or 9:00 PM.

Even from afar, I can feel the pain. I don't know what she is encountering but I could feel that it might not end up a minor surgery.

4:50 PM, she informed us that her surgery was expedited by a family friend whom happen to be one of the doctors that rushed the paperwork for my sister and she was going into surgery soon.

6:04 PM, the doctors that palpated my sister's abdomen after she was anesthetized, found a mass on the right side of her abdomen. They decided to cut a bigger incision at her mid-line lower abdomen and will extend it higher if the mass is bigger. My mother whom informed us this, must be really upset because this happened on Mother's day and a day before mother's birthday. Neither one of us dare to tell her the hospitalization news in the morning nor wish her Happy Mother's day on this not so news on a "should be" happy day.

6:59 PM, after inflamed appendix was cut, the specialist team gone in and found my sister to have the important organ enlarged and twisted. The appendix was cut and the important organ were partially cut and sent for histopathology examination. 

7:30 PM, mother was informed that sister's important organ has been partially removed and surgeons are covering her wound up.

8:26 PM, surgery is over. From a 1 hour minor surgery to 3.5 hours of surgery on Mother's day, I didn't dare to ask what happen.

From 4:55 AM to 11:09 PM, her being awake from anesthetic, I couldn't breathe well. I just miss her so much for being a strict sister that have groomed me to be a better person.

I am grateful to have her as my sister to lead the way in life, being selfless to contribute to many different community's growth and to consistently achieve personal excellence in everything she does.

I love you my sister and I hope you have speedy recovery.

Congratulations?

A day ago, my ex boyfriend posted on his new born baby.

Other than being an ex boyfriend, he is also my debtor. When he needed money, I stupidly (love is blind, they say) took few loans for him and he used me as a source of income for couple years while we were together. I took the loan for a car, paid half of the car and never seen the car or the money again. I never knew what happened to the car or the money.

1 year after we broke up, he was still staying in my house, cooking all the food i bought. Soon I wanted to be dating again, I warned him to leave in a week and never to return to my life again. He left.

It has been 7 years we broke up and I have been keeping up with the debts that he always said he will pay or shall pay but never did. Always with excuses.

I am unhappy he got a baby first while I asked for the break up. Why did we break up in the first place? He was consuming me, physically, mentally and spiritually.

He was an abuser. I used to be imprisoned in the house for 2 years, hidden from the world. My family don't see me unless we ran out of food and ran out of money. He made me go home to "steal" some food.

I was regularly beaten up so badly, I was not able to work. I struggled mentally and attempted suicide for several times. It is true, when you are so badly injured, you won't feel the pain in the cut on the wrist.

Gratefully, I survived those suicidal incidences and made myself a promise that I will leave him, strong as me again.

When I met him, I was only 19. Being in network marketing at that moment, I was earning a happy 5 figures and after being with him, I lost everything. He personally gave his best friend ALL of my savings and capital fund while they spent it on alcohol, clubbing, prostitution and eventually when the money ran out, his friend left.

I planned and I worked diligently according to plan to leave him when he took my last RM50.00 and left me starving, it was 7 days to payout. I almost fainted in the office, my former colleagues gave me milk, bread and some money to survive. I cried terribly and knew I had to change it.

I worked nonstop for 18 hours a day continuously for 3 years and when I began to pick myself up financially and at work, he told me to thank him for making me a better person.

Nothing was uttered, I just smiled. Despite being a leader at work, I was being bullied by a large group of people, some of which I didn't even know until years later. I was being bullied at home, mentally, physically and I know spiritually my soul was dying. I prayed really really hard.

My prayers was answered at the most awful moment of my life. I was given an opportunity to leave the project for a better, bigger project. The opportunist side of me became the dominant and left.

I worked even harder (20 hours a day perhaps?), got into a better relationship, started to have savings, never starved myself for another day.

Chasing the debt for 7 years, listening to him telling me how bad his situation is for the many years and how his wife got pregnant and he is in tension. I frankly don't care because he cannot even afford to pay me back RM1 and he got the balls to tell me, today (yes today) that the money was spent with me.

When we were together, I used to earn 4 times of what his parents send him, monthly. He actually had the balls to tell me he spent on me too.

Instead of congratulating him, I told him that I wish his daughter will know what kind of person he was. How a liar he was about owing a person and lied for wanting to pay; when help was needed, it was given but when money has to be returned, it had to be begged.

He said I cursed him while I should congratulate him.

Everyone in the world can congratulate him but never me because only i went through the hell of being beaten, tortured mentally and walked out of that safely. I forgave him so I forgive myself but I will never forget the scar he left in my life.

Congratulate yourself if you feel you deserve it but I feel nothing other than pitiful to the baby girl born to your care.

How I remind myself to "Live while alive"

Good Complainer

Many people around me thinks that I am great in complaining so many of them tend to look for me to prepare their complaint letter.

I am not good at complaining but I am merely better in exclaiming my feelings. In fact, I don't like complaining because I work in customer experience field and I believe that intentional, unnecessary complaints will attract Karma! (I am great fan of Law of Attraction and this implies here!)

Good complaint is irrevelant to get the imposed message addressed. It depends if the customer service field is driving empathy in their core values.

It is never a bad thing to have empathy driven customer service but it can be lethal to company that do not have strictly obligated guidelines.

Imagine you hire a level 2 that handles escalation and he is so empathy, he tends to give every customer what they want. If everyone of them wanted RM100 rebate and there he handles approximately 900 complaints a year, it would be RM90,000. It could be 50% actual empathy and your company lose RM45, 000 for nothing.

How would you prepare and identify a 360 degree empathy guidelines to be adhered in order to have optimal cost control while maximising customer experience?

I will share with you my personal thoughts and ideas of how I plan for customer experience in the next post. 

My Law of Attraction

I am a strong believer of Law of Attraction!

From KL to Hong Kong, I was so irritated by the person sitting beside me because she kept waking me up with her elbow!

She was not huge in size nor am I crossing her seat line but she is just doing it again and again.

I was terribly irritated and while I woke her up ONCE when she felt asleep to go to the washroom, she woke me up at least for 10 times. No, I was not seating at the aisle seat. I was seating at the window seat (I love views!)

She was not happy but I don't care, I needed the toilet (haha, her karma). So she knew how I felt and suddenly throughout the remaining fight, she no longer elbow her arm on my arm (last 1 hour from 4 hours plus flight). At least she learned to be considerate, I think!

So while I was irritated, I constantly thought I want to get a seat without anyone beside me for my next flight like at the aisle. I had it written down once I have this thought and I was already planning to have my next vacation tickets bought at the aisle.

Law of Attraction happens when you least expected it, my return flight is already equipped with what my mind have attracted.

I got 3 seats for me

It is amazing how the universe works right? This is the fastest law of attraction have worked for me, maybe because it is nearer to heaven.

Do you know what is Law of Attraction and how it works? Let me know what you think of this!

Follow your own cause

Talent is the least important thing today.

Many times we see people whom are talented but is not as successful as those whom have stayed on.

Staying loyal to a cause that have cost your effort, time and energy doesn't mean that you are not competent to move on, it means that you are committed.

Someone may tell you, you are not going to succeee because of your past. You feel upset and you give up then you see the person whom did not give up while you did, proceed to the next level.

What do you call that? Luck?

I call it persistence.

Persistence is being committed to your cause, trying to achieve your cause using different methods.

There could be many reasons of you being committed but unable to deliver what you have expected to do then you may give up at a point of time.

You believing in you, is being committed to your cause. Have you found your cause?

If yes, are you on the way there?

Why do I need to be fit?

Isn't it an interesting topic that baffles many? 

Some feels that we should not lose weight because it is body shaming to do so when others say that while mos of us may have funny reasons to do some, following are a compilation of reasons I have encountered from people whom wanted to lose weight and have successfully lost weight's reasons:

1) Higher chance to survive during disaster

One of my trainee absolutely believes that if he is fitter, he can run faster during a disaster hence being fitter can let him have higher chance to survive! 

2) Look good in photo

One of the trainee was struggling with low self esteem as she had a hard time looking at those weight gained while she gotten sick and couldn't exercise. With that, she hated herself in photos so she took charge and lost whopping 26kgs just so she can look thinner in the photo any of her friends or family snapped 📸

3) Lesser time spent for good photos

Another interesting trainer got tired of editing his photo to look good so that he can tell interesting stories when he is 90, got fitter so that he won't need to spend hours for good photos! (Well, who want to look bad in their memories right?) 
4) Fit in the wanted

One lady spent hundred on clothes 👙👗💥 that she couldn't fit in and was laughed at by her husband, she ended up losing weight, got fitter and spent even more on clothes! (For a great reason!) 

5) Glamorous!! The need to have the body people envy so one can be the glam have become a social norm, the great news of wanting to be fit to be glamourous is so much healthier than wanting to be going through knives or technology to be glamorous! I would at least thank Avengers for sending the right messages!!

6) Physically Fit

One of the lady trainee was often down with fever, flu and cough, she got fed up of medicine so decided to take a turn on fitness by changing her food diet first then added on exercise. 

She just wanted to do what she was passionate about, going out with others without worrying on what to not be eaten to avoid cough, flu or fever. Nowadays, she just use portion control to enjoy everything she loved! 

With people losing weight and some still ponder on "why can't I lose weight?" 

A. No time
B. Don't know what to do or where to start
C. Body reflect too slowly (😏lazy)
D. Actual procrastination

E. Any reason to not lose weight now.. 

One just need 1 reason to move or 1 reason to not move, whatever the reason is, you are right. Only your reason can determine your persistency towards the outcome.

Clock is ticking, if we don't start to enjoy now, when will we?!

What should I do?

Have you ever wonder what do you want to do in or meant to accomplished in this life?

I wonder about it all the time, I think about it all the time and I have drafted numerous proposals to push myself to go further and do something, anything! I listed pros and cons about what I wanted and needed, map out the possible consequences on each route to be taken. Checklist of making things happen but nothing seems to work out so far... Because plan is just a dream without action.

While I've been trying to figure myself out, there has been many, too many opportunities approaching me. So many people showing so many presentations, people coming out with some amusing and some confusing financial plans, some forwarding articles of good stuff, suggestions of new products, impressive marketing plans. There is just one too many choices to be choose.

I am uncertained.

Should I continue with my apprenticeship of working with a capable leader that constantly gives me new challenges and new free appreciation (no promotion but have minimal increment) .

Should I go with one of it for the money?

Should I put my life together and work it out piece by piece, slowly?

Should I just be happy and forgo everything then just live a usual life?

Should I just flush all the thoughts into the toilet bowl and do the thing I felt?

I don't have the answer yet. What about you?

Growing Up

I seriously have no idea what was I thinking. Slept at 7am, woke up at 10am to make a call to reschedule my IPL treatment to 5pm then appear there at 4.15pm. Did it earlier and ran (yes I ran!) on a train to the airport.

I was stinking sweat then; supposingly feel frustrated but I felt satisfied, I did not think twice. I was going to meet my sister and her sons whom is flying overseas, to which the next time we meet is undefined.

Over the years, I became gradually careful of my options and decisions at all times. People said it is called growing up, I think it I called normalizing ones' creativity, it is somehow consuming me at the same time. I felt like a right brainer turning into a left brainer and slowly going to be a no brainer.

I can feel the sense of losing myself to the norm of the society especially to do something adhocly has become a choice.

If this is growing up, why was I not warned?
If this is growing up, is creativity the only thing I will be giving up on?
If this is growing up, have I lost more than just my spontaneity and have not realized it?
If this is growing up, will I fail to know myself soon?

I don't have an answer, will I ever have an answer? I really wish I can screw work, buy a ticket, fly anywhere now, think it through there then decide the next step. Well since tomorrow is a working day, I am not getting on a last minute flight anywhere.

Return ticket to my work is the only available option right now. Do you feel the same?

The Right Person

Do you know who is the right person for you in your life?

I used to think that I will not find the right person for me in my life and I have been struggling to feel happy and secured.

Maybe it is age factor or maybe because I have been through a lot hence recently I felt that finding the right person is not finding the person you want but it's about finding the person that can let you become the person you should be becoming, making me more of the person that will love life, becoming the person that enjoy life, becoming the person that will feel satisfied and will never ever hate being alive.

I met (and left) this guy whom I was with for 5 years, someone I wanted to have in my life. He treated me well in the first few months then he became really controlling until an extend he beat me and kept me in the house for 2 years. I couldn't explain why I sucked it up back then but I eventually came to my conscience and worked my way out of his sight. I was kept away from his family for 5 years, earned and spent all my money, took up bank loans on his behalf, lost all my savings, got trouble in my first business attempt and I couldn't work because he regularly came to harass me at my work place.

I wouldn't thank him for who I am today because with or without him, I would live another day without scar on my body, heart and mind. Everything happened for a reason and I am grateful I lived that through.

On another occasion, I am currently dating a guy whom I never thought I would be with. He was boring (now not that boring), blunt and most of the time seemed cold to me. Me being a talkative, outgoing and passionate person, we didn't connect quite well. There were numerous ups and downs but he sticked around really tightly, we grew together.

What made me really sure about him being in my life for the longest of time is the fact that he loves my family and his family the same way, although we are still just dating. He cares for my sister and mother's well being without being asked. He constantly reminds me of going back to home and let me be myself.

He used to piss me of by trying to talk me into his way but upon confrontation of the situation, he respect my choice and I learned to respect his choice too.

A side note, he used to be very calculative about money, I was a person whom don't think when I spend (I am not in debt); we changed. He taught me how to save and I taught him how to spend well, I can say that we have stable financial now because we were so different in handling our financial thus benefited us by being balanced! This will be shared on how in another post.

The point I wish to say is that, it don't really matter who you want to have in your life but the person you need in your life, to be a better version of you. I am thankful and grateful to be able to meet this loyal person  whom have made me a better person along the way.

Are you currently seeing the person you never thought you wanted but just happened to be the one that you need?

Lost and Found

I have been relatively lost recently, figuring out the next step of my life. I have tried talking to many people but none really can tell me what I should be doing next.

I have been planning many times for long time, thinking during sleepless nights and counting those abstract analysis in order to gauge my next time. 

I love life, I embrace my life and I have been living the 10 years plan I have set. Having it achieved worries me.

I fear I may not know what to do next in life;

I fear I will not have something new to look forward to;

I fear being a nobody at the end of my life in this world;

I fear of being not enough as a daughter, sister, aunt, friend or worker;

I fear the most of being not good enough as a world growth contributor.

What if I have done not enough today to be a better me than yesterday?

I see many people have been doing it their way or the way they wanted me to see it as. When can I be like that?

Little did I know that a gathering I have consistently missed in the last 10 years would bring difference to my life, thoughts and my whereabouts. 

My primary classmates, were people whom I genuinely missed because of how they make me feel when I am around them. They don't judge me, is always subjective and have always let me feel welcomed in the group, although I have missed almost 100% of the gathering in the last 10 years.

They did not judge me.

They were eye openers to me.

They have inspired me to be myself.

They remind me not to rush the clock because of someone else.

They are all diligent people working in their field of expertise.

They have reminded me that I should look out of my desk to be different.

I am grateful and thankful that this bunch of people actually look forward to having a gathering every year, having the effort to make it to the gatherings. I will do my best to attend all the gatherings in future because I know I will be inspired even more.

How much does it cost to keep a memory?

A place I wish to keep in my life, has been sold.

This is the place that I have stayed during my high school time, the place that witness my first love, first time being away from home, first time going on a date, first time raring my own rabbit, first time raring my own fish, first time taking care of an elderly, first time prayed until I cried, the place I spent the most time with an elderly and learned that no matter what happens in life, always look at it differently because everything changes every second.

I received a message informing that the place I grew up in, has been officially sold at the tag price of near to 4 million Ringgits. I do not own it, neither did my direct family have any ownership towards it but it has been sold and it will highly be turned into a commercialized venue since it is situated in the centre of attention in one of the most well known heritage in Malaysia.

Do you know what makes it hurtful?

I have been working really hard for 10 years with the purpose of having to be able to have the capital to keep my memories and buy thing I always wanted to keep. This time round, I couldn't do it because it is too costly, something that I cannot afford.

Making the feeling worse, it was purchased by my former schoolmates whom were at least 1 year younger than me, 4 of them. I wonder what did they do to be able to buy the property so quickly since they graduated much later than me.

It is definitely a mixed feelings because I cannot afford it while those graduated after me can. (Note: I didn't go to university hence started working 4 years earlier than them)

I know many would think that it could be that they are rich or made a fortune or probably struck a lottery to afford it. Have a thought at it, they afford something I couldn't, what is my excuse to still be status quo?

Opportunity knocks on the door

The fisherman's boat sinked and he was hanging on the float he had.

He prayed hard for God to help him. 

A luxurious cruise passed by and offered his a free spot on the ship, he rejected saying he is waiting for God to save him. 

A fishing boat passed by and offered him to be on the boat so that he can have enough of food to eat and warm his body. He rejected saying he is waiting for God to save him. 

A submarine passed by seeing him floating and they offered him to be in the submarine so that he can be sent onshore for proper medical treatment. He refused the offer, saying he rejected saying he is waiting for God to save him. 

A patrolling helicopter passed by and saw him in the middle of the sea. They attempt to save him but he struggled and refused to be on the helicopter, saying he rejected saying he is waiting for God to save him. 

He floated and arrive to an island where it is hosted by its origin and they saved him but he jumped back into the ocean and thought that he is waiting for God to save him.

Yes you guessed it right, he died. When he gone to heaven, he questioned God, why didn't God save him while he have been praying for it.

God told him that He have sent a luxurious cruise, a submarine, a fish boat, an island and a helicopter but the fisherman refused all of it. How can he be the one questioning? 

When was the last time you turn down an opportunity a friend shared with you to earn money because you don't think you have the time, energy,  skill or it is not the opportunity you are praying for?

Ask yourself, is it possible you earn more, gain more, grow more by keep on doing the same thing?

Bill Gates quotes, "if you are born poor, it is not your fault but if you die poor, it is your fault" .

My quote, if you were like that one year ago, it may not be your fault but if you are still like that one year later, whose fault do you think it is?

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Passive Income 2 - Should I charge less for tuition?

Anyone whom have a child in Asia would most probably send their child to a tuition class, it is a type of class on top of the ordinary classes to be attended by any student from primary up (6 to 7-year-old) to secondary (17 to 19-year-old).

Have you ever encountered this situation when you are own a business, a part time or a full time job and your friends or family actually ask you to earn less from them because they think that they are someone in their lives?

While a child attends a tuition class, it is counted by hours. As low as RM20 per hour up to RM50 per hour, depending on the subject to be studied.

An average student goes to tuition 2 days a week, each time 1.5 hours to 2 hours, per subject. During school holidays it can be from 3 days up to 5 days a week, in order to get the students on track during school holidays.

An average tuition teacher gets 5-10 students per class, per 1.5 hours or 2 hours.

Assuming that a student attend tuition 2 days a week, each time 2 hours, per month it will be RM640.
Assuming that a teacher does the same as above and have 7 students, that teacher get RM4,480 per month.

However, there is situation where a tuition teacher have relatives and friends whom thinks that they prefer the "special price" so the tuition teacher have to charge a "discounted" price tuition fee. If there is one in each class, paying at the minimal of RM20 per hour, the teach end up losing RM320 per month.

What would you do if you are asked to provide discount?
Would you still think this is an ideal business?
What if the discount is to make it free?

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Passive Income 1 - Should I share my Referral Fee?

If you have worked in a corporate company, you may heard of referral fee.

So you refer a friend in favour to get them a job at your awesome company then upon their confirmation of employment, you get your cut of referral fee that you deserved. Your friend told you that he/she deserve the cut in half because they were confirmed.

If we were to not give half of the share, we risk of losing a recently confirmed "colleague", a known before friend, would most probably be defamed by a person whom we once called friend, worst part is that we might be the most wanted selfish person because we refused to share and things could go dramatically ugly.

Many I know have encountered this so the easy way out is to unwilling, devastatingly and painstakingly give out the other half.

Will you give is not the question, should you give it?

Answer this:

1. Did your friend get the job before you got yours?

2. Would your friend know about the job before you said so?

3. Can your friend's resume standout in all those resumes in queue for the position offered?

If your answer is no or maybe for all the above, then you should never share it. That person have to be confirmed to keep their job and to get their regular paychecks. You're not the person whom have to determine if this person is to be confirmed, you're not the person that decides to employ this person, most importantly your company is paying this person's salary, not you.

I can share the referral fee but please share with me your every month's salary during probation period because I REFERRED YOU.

Do you have a friend that wish to work part time? Refer them and you get paid.

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The Stairs

I have been puzzled, why can't people I speak to understand what I am explaining, most of the time?

Last month, a coworker came to me and told me, "Hey, I used to not understand why do I need to write up so many reports to you. Now at this level, I finally understood that it is required to be recorded as a form of protection should an error occur. Thanks for the good work!"

Ironically, this took her a year to understand such a simple work necessity.

I have tried, many times to explain myself but to no avail. Not many people could understand my point. I have doubted myself at times and started to feel alienated at times.

An incident occurred today when I wanted to go to a bank. While I was in the area, there was a left route which is long but could clearly lead me to my destination; there was also a right route which showed that it could need more of my energy to "climb" but could get me to my destination much faster. I chose the left route, completed my chore and while I came out from the bank, I saw the initial right route being the easier, faster and shorter way.

Then I understood this, while we climb a stairs, we are at the lower ground, we are unsure what is waiting for us at the higher level so we assume we know it and we tend to take the seemingly easier route. However, once we are at the higher ground, we are visible to all the possible routes.

While one is climbing a stairs, we ought to assume. Some whom have walked the stairs may have advised us but we chose not to listen because we thought what we knew was everything what the adviser no longer knew. We thought we can outsmart people whom have walked it out. We chose to take the seemingly easier and visible way.

We do not know what we do not know until we take the unknown road. I could climb 1000 stairs but before I reach the top, I would not know what is waiting for me. So why spend time to explain to people whom is looking from down the stairs but not walk the stairs?

Walk it out to be different.

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